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FOCUS ON THE FLOW NOT THE FLAW
Relationships at all levels including marriage are not about having someone who has no FLAWS. It’s about being able to relate or FLOW well. Getting along with someone (flowing), is more important than how perfect they are (FLAWLESS — without Failures and Faults).
Realize that People flourish better in non-judgmental relationships. People blossom where you don’t have expectations of perfection and where you value them no matter what. Always remember that people are human. They are not perfect just like you are not perfect. So you can’t keep setting up these standards and benchmarks of what you deem to be correct. Realize that you are not any better than them. You are simply flawed differently. The thing we all desire is to be valued and accepted so don’t keep being a good defense lawyer of yourself and very good judge of others.
Finally, refuse to have time wasting interruptions such as arguments, disagreements, misunderstandings and fault finding as you relate with those you love. Don’t allow any mistake or failure to interfere with your friendship. Get along no matter what! Forget the flaws (faults and failures). Forgive easily and quickly. Hold no grudges if you love them. Drop the expectations of perfection.
No judging and no condemnation. Anyone you relate with this way will blossom because it’s not about being perfect. Its learning to relate perfectly.
