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Healthy Relationships
Healthy relationships are relationships where you share yourself with someone without losing yourself in the process. So if you are relating with someone and you lose something emotionally, physically, psychologically or spiritually at the end of the interaction, then that person you are relating with is unhealthy for you.
Healthy relationships add value to you. They validate your worth, they build you up, they better you, upgrade you and improve you tremendously. So from workmates, church mates, peers, best friends and your boyfriend/girlfriend, learn to avoid all relationships that kill something in you. Don’t relate closely with people who deplete you and get you in a bad state. If every time you are around certain people, you lose something or feel the pressure to ‘Not be yourself’ then that is unhealthy.
If you have to pretend, if you have to keep up appearances, to look cool, or try hard to fit in e.t.c, then you are in some unhealthy relationship. So please find friends who make you comfortable being yourself so that you can truly begin to grow and become better. Be with people who love you for you. Be with people who know your strengths, your weaknesses, where you live and your background without judging you or making you feel uncomfortable about yourself.
Remember that real growth only happens in authentic environments and every time you are pretending to someone, you are not growing around them.
